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long-term relationships, whether they are married or dating,
often complain about getting into a rut. Your relationship may
have started off with the great burst of passion and excitement
but perhaps it began to wane because life is busy and work can
where you out by the end of the day.
If you're in a dating relationship that seems to be in a rut, or wonder why
you can't keep a long term relationship exciting anymore,
perhaps you need to go back to the beginning. That doesn't mean
you need to break up with your current partner and find someone
new, it means you need to refresh the relationship with exciting
and spontaneous activities.
When you look back on a period of your life, what is it that you remember?
Is it the average day-in, day-out activities? Not likely. It is
more likely those fun and spur-of-the-moment times when you did
things that were hilarious or scary or new. That's what it means
to go back to the beginning of a relationship, when everything
you do is spontaneous and new.
Next time you and your girlfriend or boyfriend are deciding to do something
on Friday, don't settle for dinner-and-a-movie. Do something
different! Here are some ideas:
Rent a classic car
Have a picnic
Or surprise your date with something spontaneous:
Start a water fight
Go for a romantic boat ride and tip the boat
Blindfold your date and take them somewhere they never been
Surprise your date at work just as they're finishing up for the day
Relationships fail for many reasons. One of the saddest reasons is that
people simply drift apart because the other person doesn't
excite them anymore. It doesn't have to be that you're your
relationship, whether dating or married, can thrive when it is
filled with adventures that the two of you share as you build
You'll look back on your time together with fondness as you consider the
many fun and spontaneous things you did together. But doing
those things is a choice. Choose to return to the beginning of
your relationship and have fun again!
About the author:
Jeff Lakie is the founder of
Dating Resources a website providing information on