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|In my attempts
to find the love of my life, I knew that they were not going to
be found in the town where I lived, so I took to the Internet.
My first experience was the result of a television commercial.
They looked so darn happy, you couldn’t help but wonder if this
could also work for you, so I tried it. Put it this way, finding
my “Mr. Right” may have ended up costing me a small fortune!
Then one day I was working on my computer and along came an annoying pop-up.
Normally, I delete them as fast as they pop-up, but this one
caught my eye. It was for another dating site. Once inside the
site, I was amazed at all of the handsome black men and a few
white ones too, who were looking for the perfect black woman.
Because of how I am, my desire for monogamy, this is who I was looking for,
someone who had the same desire as me. What I quickly found out,
on my first night on the site is that most men don’t even bother
to read your profile they just look at your picture and click!
Thanks for the compliment, I think? However, when a man takes
the time to read your profile, he is going a little deeper than
just the physical attraction and actually learns a little about
you before sending you a message.
At that time my profile was a little friendlier, more inviting. What I found
was that I spent more time eliminating those who did not fit the
bill until I thought I had found the one. However I have a hard
time giving all of my attention and affection to someone who is
not returning the favor. And because of who I am, it is not in
my nature to be intimate with more than one person at a time. To
me, intimacy definitely includes more than just sex. It involves
allowing a person to really get to know who you are, what your
likes and dislikes are, what your loves and fears are, trusting
to the point of vulnerability. So because I was not getting what
I needed in return for what I was giving, I said audios!
I decided to give this site another go. This time I spelled out exactly what
I expected in my profile. It was probably more intimidating to
some. I think that they could tell that I was very serious about
what I am saying and if they are all about the game, they don’t
even bother to click. That’s good! As I say, that way I don’t
have to bother cutting away the fat to get to the meat. Or as
one gentleman said, “the apples at the top of the tree are more
appealing but the ones on the ground are easier to get.” I am
still the same person, but this time I am realizing that it’s
really all about the game. The object of the game is to talk
with whomever you want, as many as you want, as much as you
want, as intimately as you want, all at the same time, and
finally, if you choose to do so, you can select the one who has
won you over from all of your many admirers. However, don’t
forget that while you are being pursued by him, he is being
pursued by others and he is also pursuing others at the same
time he is pursuing you. It’s like one big orgy!
For this very reason, I don’t think that online dating is right for me. But
let’s turn that around. Online dating is what you make it. You
can play by your own rules. As for me, I really don’t care what
the others do; I will stick to my molasses method of one person
at a time. The problem is finding that one who would be willing
to give up the buffet to see what the steak taste like. I’m sure
that it will take me longer this way to find the one who is
right for me, but after all when I do, it will have been well
worth the time—for both of us!
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