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Love at first
|Yes, men think
so...or is it 'lust' at first sight? How can a woman or man
If a woman thinks it is 'love at first sight', she may have found an
incredibly 'hot' guy who matches her ideal social persona
'catch'. If this guy actually knows how to be a natural, all
women will want him and she will have to fight with others to
'keep him' (I can teach you to be this man).
Otherwise most of them appear to be quite boring because they try to impress
her and don't 'get it'. But when dealing with 'love at first
sight', yes it might be, but then longer term dynamics start to
sink in and kind of spoil it.
Beauty is in the eye of the beerholder, I mean, beholder.
'Love at first sight' is usually only perceptionally based if not in its
entirety. No one can match up ideally to one person's
expectation of who they are or who they should be. Once you find
out more about them, you're going to be disappointed in what you
thought they were. See how selfish we as people really are?!
Eventually you go through the hardships of a 'real' relationship and very
very rarely will everything work out perfectly where the people
are a real match (at least in our highly developed, opinionated,
individualistic cultural society).
You are only throwing your perception or ideals on who you think that person
is or should be (I have done this a lot in the past). We want a
person to be the ideal match to what WE think they should be.
Most often if not all the time, we find out they are not
actually what we idealized and then are a little disappointed. A
real relationship is going to take a lot of work and a lot more
work than two 'simpler' people.
If you can spark attraction shortly after you meet a woman, there is a more
realistic chance she will feel deeper emotions for you than her
social persona (of what states what she says she wants) and she
will often forgive your other misgivings as long as you
understand natural attraction.
This is actually very generous of her because now, guys (way) below her
level physically actually have a chance. The process of
attraction is slightly different for men and women.
Men will often instantly disqualify women for a sexual relationship based on
their looks (ahem), while women keep an open mind to see who
knows how to make them 'feel' the feelings that they respond to
so powerfully physiologically and emotionally. They are
interested in a mans character attributes because that are
things that can be of interest for the long haul.
These feelings have a biological root which she cannot choose or control.
This is why an average looking guy who 'get's it' can have more
of a chance than a good looking guy who easily proves himself
wrong to her right away.
She will resent that most of her counterparts do not 'get it' yet but will
be open to starting something with a man who finally can just
'lead her through' the natural process of attraction...then
often sex 'just happened' or she got 'swept away'..this is the
way it is supposed to be and that she fantasizes about (and
reads in those sappy romance novels).
Don't be thrown off by what a woman says she wants if you are not that
social reflection of her consciousness yourself, she is
programmed biologically to react to men who are true naturals
with her or who display aspects of being a natural. Do not let
that stop you. Her biological inheritance (when in tandem with a
true natural man) will override ANY social programming she may
have, as long as he maintains true congruency and doesn't 'screw
If you are a natural you probably won't screw it up when you are reaching
that part of her (there is much more leniency here). If you are
'walking on egg shells' by trying to be 'qualified' by her
social persona, it's virtually a guarantee you'll screw it up
even with any small move. Take the very ending of 'Boat Trip'
where Roselyn Sanchez says to the wussy Cuba Gooding, Jr.
character, "Ok, but you BETTER not screw it up."
Sure the movie ends with a kiss but who has the control here? Whose reality
is he in? Love at first sight, but he is based in the wrong
paradigm of 'being' that he WILL screw it up because of the
power dynamics and several other factors (she is in control by
In fact, you will almost put aside the entire notion of 'love at first
sight' because it's too romancey for you (although you may
secretly keep that dream alive); but you understand reality a
little more, that different relationships with different women
are going to give you different experiences.
Of course you may be aware of lust at first sight with women you see most
everywhere you go, but you really have to get to know her more
to find out who she is, otherwise it is all just perception.
If you can develop yourself to look as good as you can and get your internal
paradigm and life straight and clear, then you can naturally
accelerate the process of attracting women and starting things
with little effort. Your focus should really be on developing
yourself and living in a natural paradigm, while denying all of
the perceptual B.S. that is going on. Be an interesting and
intriguing man and improve yourself; HAVE something to offer
women who are lucky enough.
Your 'love at first sight' from their point of view only happens if you
match their social ideal (and traditional ideal of Prince
Charming) and then know how to take everything from there...then
all women will want you. You do not have to be Prince
Charming..that is another article, but remember how you relate
to her says everything. She needs to be turned up like a volume
knob and you have to interact with her to spark the process of
sexual attraction and her interest will grow in you...through
time, may lead to infatuation, love, great respect, devotion,
passion, etc. from her.
It is all in how you relate to her so don't pay too much attention to having
to have Brad Pitt looks, with Soros' bank account...that's the
same as you wanting to date a supermodel, except you probably
have a better chance than she does to meet your ideal because
there are so few men left who really get it and are a great
catch in their own right (with some nice social status to boot).
There are countless beautiful women. The advantage and favor is in YOUR
hands. There are few men left who are awesome catches AND who
know how to deal with these women. Make women want you just by
being your true self at all times; an interesting, funny, great
guy and know how to take it from there (I can help you there as
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