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H M Hovis
|Whether you have
been dating for years, getting back in the game, or just
starting out, you could always use a bit of dating advice. Not
the kind you get from your mother, but rather the kind that
actually might get you past the first date, on to the 2nd and
perhaps on to a happily ever after.
So you have decided to date and you are thinking about the "online dating"
thing? Well, why not. To be cliche' everyone is doing it! In
today's action packed, hustle, bustle world, who had time or
energy to meet the traditional ways. Online meeting has become a
norm, and is gaining in acceptability.
Writing Your Profile Many online dating services offer assistance in writing
your profile, if you are not a good writer then this may be
something you should consider. Before you sit down to write your
profile, find out how others see you, so that you can more
adequately describe yourself as you are seen. (You don't see
yourself as others do - probably) The best way to do this is ask
around. You don't have to tell anyone why - just ask for one
word that describes your looks, work habits, home environment
etc get a list and go from there. Chances are you will come
closer to a good description of yourself that way than any other
To Post a Picture or Not To Post - That is the question Well are you
photogenic? You know even if you aren't there has to be a
picture somewhere of you that looks good. Find it! Whoever said
a picture is worth a thousand words knew what the were talking
about. And let's face it - this is a shallow society - we are
attracted by looks in addition to pleny of other things - but
looks are definetly high on the list. Not putting up a picture
leads to suspicion of whether you are attractive or not - what's
wrong with you! Put it up there.
Free Online Dating Services, Trials, and Charges You get what you pay for -
most of the time. Most of the online dating services charge.
It's a huge market - just doesn't seem like it when you are
actually trying to find a date does it? The best thing to do is
find a trial service, or a service that allows you to wink or
send eye contact or a smile to another party to let them know
you are interested. So if you both just send that and then it
goes nowhere you have to decide - are they worth the fee to join
the site to find out more. If you do decide to join, keep in
mind that most of these sites won't let the other person respond
without also having a membership. That does not mean however
that you can't send them an alternate method of contacting you.
There is nothing more frustrating than being contacted by
someone you would like to write back to, but no way to do that
unless you also join. Is it worth the fees? Some site editors
are not too bright either and you can sneak little ways into
your profile that allow future interested parties a way to find
you. Such as saying something like - "I have the same name where
the little yellow man is" would tell someone that your username
at AOL would be the same as your username on the profile and
they might then contact you without you either one buying a
If you choose to post on more than one site, try to spice each profile up a
bit differently. No one wants to read the same thing twice, and
what you might have missed out on saying in one profile may be
the thing that catches someone's attention on another profile.
Use different pictures too.
What to be Cautious of Online meeting has allowed us to move a bit faster
than traditional dating. Your inhibitions all fall down when you
are sitting behind a computer screen and you can do or say or
flirt however you want and it's not as difficult as it is face
to face. What that usually leads to is assuming you know someone
better than you normally would before you've ever had that first
date - but beware - their inhibitions were down too and they may
have come across a lot greater than they really are.
Do You Take Down Your Profile When You Meet Someone? Well - did they take
down their profile? If they did, and you are serious about being
exclusive, then you should take down your profile. (on all the
sites you have it up on) But if they haven't and you aren't then
leave it up. Think how many fish swimming around in the sea
might nibble on your bait while you have it out there!
Perhaps getting online and flirting and maybe even meeting up with someone
is the push you need to get out more and enjoy life. Maybe it
leads to happily ever after. Whatever it leads to enjoy it and
You can site specific advice and more information as well as recommended
sites by visiting my website at www.themarketradar.com
About the author:
H M Hovis holds a degree in Mass Communication with an emphasis in
Public Relations, and currently works in the casino industry.